Manpace, cash benefits are rare these days. Most government welfare comes in the form of food stamps and Medicaid. The article you linked says that plenty of people in these counties USE these programs, but they don't commit FRAUD by lying about eligibility. Unmarried women who can't work because they have young children are eligible for benefits. That's not fraud, but whether it's RIGHT fuels the argument.
Tacky, yes, but with people marrying older these days, you have a yard sale when you get married and need a shower when you split. It's only tacky when you ask for stuff. I've been married more times than I care to admit, but I've never had a wedding shower. We really did have a wedding yard sale last summer!
I wondered about the narration. For a minute I assumed it was Cantonese, then thought I recognized some Mandarin words, so I used the word "language" instead of either.
http://www.neatorama.com/2009/05/20/alan-allan-allen/