Actually, kickinkirby, if the child had the invitations taken away, then the implication is that the teacher did not take him aside and say something to the effect of, "You can't do that here" or "Do it on your own time". The invitations did not go back to the child at the end of the day, as the word "confiscation" implies. If you are driving with an ounce of weed in your car and the cops confiscate it, you aren't getting back are you? I am sure that even if the teacher didn't stand this boy in front of the class and call him a selfish little beast, that if anyone was humiliated and upset, it was that boy. After all, what we do know is that the boy took it pretty hard, and we do know that the invitations were not taken away until after he had handed them out, which means that everyone in the class saw what happened and was in fact, a part of the whole scene. It's not like the teacher saw the invitations in his book bag and took them without making an issue of the whole thing. Nope, she gathered them all up when she saw that two of the kids didn't get one. And yes, that's rude, humiliating, and rotten.
So, while I will admit that yes, I strongly worded my statements, I don't believe that based on the information we have, that it is entirely inaccurate. As far as I am concerned, that teacher is a tool and a harpy.
I'm not worked up over this, personally. I'd be hard pressed to get "worked up" over much. I have fun with stuff until it bores me. I just find it strange how people are quick to defend the two uninvited guests when we have no word on how they even feel about it, and do know that they are not friends of this child. While I also think that the dad would have done better to rip the teacher and school administration a new one, that he is suddenly a jerk for defending his kid who had property stolen from him at the highest level he can is pretty crazy to me. After all, people defend parents who go to stupid lengths for far more frivolous things. And, for all we know, that is the only way to handle it in Sweden. I am not up on Swedish law.
Anyhow, I've been pretty bored with this post for a long time, so I'm done.
I'm not squirming, but if it makes you feel better to think that I am, here's a bit bootie shake.
The teacher confiscated the invitations, which strongly implies, though I did say we don't know for sure, that she did not give them back. Either way, though, that's worse than the snub.
So yeah, I'll take the last word. The teacher was wrong. There is never tact in confiscation and making two left out kids an issue. I have made it clear if something is unknown. Do you know if the two kids who were snubbed were actually, you know, bothered? Uhm...no. The teacher decided that they were according to our information.
It may be homemade sour cream, but it still skeeves me out.
It doesn't help that I once had a bad experience with sour milk. Took a huge chug just as it hit me that it smelled "off" and was sick for the rest of the day. I don't take chances.
My husband tends to ignore past due dates. I know that certain foods are okay a few days past their date, but I am the Food Police at home because he takes it far too far. My philosophy is "when in doubt, throw it out." I nearly tackled him in the kitchen once as he was about to use week old double cream.
It's not offensive so much as it is overused for every little emotional bruise, and in this case, hardly applicable, especially since those kids were going to feel the snub regardless. Had this kid, if he had mailed the invitations to their houses, been banned from ever referring to the party in school afterward because someone might get hurt? Seriously, that's a bit much.
Is it okay to shoot a mosquito with an elephant gun as this teacher did with heavy handed, power tripping behavior? The disregard she showed this kid was worse than anything the snubbed kids might have felt and far more damaging, as snubbing two people that aren't your friends to begin with is hardly damaging. Did he get his invitations back after class? Probably not, though we can't say either way.
So this kid is left with no invitations for his friends, an adult humiliating him and dressing him down rather than tactfully explaining what was wrong with what he did, and half the internet and all of Swedish Parliament debating the issue. Yeah, I think that's a bit worse than being snubbed.
You can make all the assumptions you'd like about me, c-dub. I really don't care. I don't see the big deal in this. The teacher is a tool for the way he/she handled the situation. The invitations were confiscated, and we must assume that the boy didn't get them back at the end of the day. All she had to do was pull him aside and talk to him about it quietly if she disapproved.
As for the dad, I wouldn't have gone to Parliament with it, but I would have raised unholy hell at the school.
The kid was planning a party and he was excited to invite his friends. I'm sure he wasn't out to "openly disregard the emotions of other people", which is a phrase that smells so badly of PC it hurts to type. And we don't even know if the other two kids cared anyway.
So, while I will admit that yes, I strongly worded my statements, I don't believe that based on the information we have, that it is entirely inaccurate. As far as I am concerned, that teacher is a tool and a harpy.
I'm not worked up over this, personally. I'd be hard pressed to get "worked up" over much. I have fun with stuff until it bores me. I just find it strange how people are quick to defend the two uninvited guests when we have no word on how they even feel about it, and do know that they are not friends of this child. While I also think that the dad would have done better to rip the teacher and school administration a new one, that he is suddenly a jerk for defending his kid who had property stolen from him at the highest level he can is pretty crazy to me. After all, people defend parents who go to stupid lengths for far more frivolous things. And, for all we know, that is the only way to handle it in Sweden. I am not up on Swedish law.
Anyhow, I've been pretty bored with this post for a long time, so I'm done.
The teacher confiscated the invitations, which strongly implies, though I did say we don't know for sure, that she did not give them back. Either way, though, that's worse than the snub.
So yeah, I'll take the last word. The teacher was wrong. There is never tact in confiscation and making two left out kids an issue. I have made it clear if something is unknown. Do you know if the two kids who were snubbed were actually, you know, bothered? Uhm...no. The teacher decided that they were according to our information.
It doesn't help that I once had a bad experience with sour milk. Took a huge chug just as it hit me that it smelled "off" and was sick for the rest of the day. I don't take chances.
Is it okay to shoot a mosquito with an elephant gun as this teacher did with heavy handed, power tripping behavior? The disregard she showed this kid was worse than anything the snubbed kids might have felt and far more damaging, as snubbing two people that aren't your friends to begin with is hardly damaging. Did he get his invitations back after class? Probably not, though we can't say either way.
So this kid is left with no invitations for his friends, an adult humiliating him and dressing him down rather than tactfully explaining what was wrong with what he did, and half the internet and all of Swedish Parliament debating the issue. Yeah, I think that's a bit worse than being snubbed.
As for the dad, I wouldn't have gone to Parliament with it, but I would have raised unholy hell at the school.
The kid was planning a party and he was excited to invite his friends. I'm sure he wasn't out to "openly disregard the emotions of other people", which is a phrase that smells so badly of PC it hurts to type. And we don't even know if the other two kids cared anyway.