Whoa now, there's a big difference between love and approval. I will always love my kids and they know it, but I don't always approve of the things they do, and they know it. I couldn't withhold love, but I can make them aware of consequences for their behavior.
I see time, too! Small pieces of time are on a round thing on my wall. My kids can't see that at all, or at least they can't figure it out. Bigger pieces are blocks on another part of my wall. But only holidays are colored.
Young people need a few extra tries, because you have to date a few people before you even realize what qualities are really important to you. The mating game is a learning experience, too.
We wondered about alcohol at our wedding a couple of months ago. I had a bottle of wine I was willing to open, but since half the attendees were underage, I just skipped it.
At one time, gifts were optional. You never assumed anyone would give you a gift, but people gave them out of love IF they could afford it. When I was young, the bride NEVER mentioned her bridal registry or shower. It was never printed in the paper or included in wedding invitations. Word was spread by friends, or a potential gift-giver asked where the bride was registered. A shower was a party held by the bride's friends -NEVER a family member, that would be too close to asking for gifts.
The writer is a woman. The handwriting is even more fascinating when you remember that it was against the law to educate a slave, at least in some states.