My husband and I started out long distance dating, so we had a strict honestly policy. I wanted to know if he was out with friends because at least then I would know *why* he might not answer the phone rather than thinking of the worst possible situation. Now, if I say "how's this outfit look?" I expect an honest answer. He puts it as nicely as possible, but he doesn't encourage me to go out looking like a fool. We've also had a long standing policy of "if you don't want to be with me, tell me, and don't waste my time." Maybe we're an unusual couple, but this level of honesty really works for us.

Oh wow! I love Vermeer. This is going to be awesome. Good find.