Does Being Brutally Honest Help Your Marriage?

Guys, when your wife or girlfriend asks "Does this clothe makes my butt look big?" what's your answer? Did you tell a little white lie?

Well, not Cathal Morrow. The 43-year-old Welshman decided to be brutally honest for a year as a personal challenge ... and was surprised with his wife's reaction:

Throughout our marriage, Patti has always asked my opinion about the clothes she buys and her weight. She goes through stages where she’ll eat loads and, to be honest, it shows.

Before, I went on auto-pilot and made reassuring noises about how lovely she looked. Now, when she asks me if I think her bum looks big, I’ll tell her it does.

It might sound cruel. But what I’ve learned over the past year is that how you tell the truth matters. So I’ll say “yes, your bum does look bigger, but I like it that way”. And I honestly do.

Another time white lies used to arise was when I was going out with the lads.

I’d fly to meetings in London and stay at a friend’s house while Patti stayed in Madrid looking after the boys. When she asked me on the phone what I’d done with my mates, I’d avoid telling her we went to the pub because she’s probably been bored stuck at home and no man wants to risk an ear-bashing.

But now I’ll tell her the truth, that we went for beers.

I’ve discovered that the fear of people’s reaction to the truth is often much worse than the reality of it.


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I agree, being honest is the key, but...

If you think the brutal truth will hurt a person, think first. If you say something "truthful" and they are hurt, talk about it.

Bottom line: Communication = essential.
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