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"I Turned Out Just Fine", But It May Not Apply to You

Whenever we discuss parenting practices, we often draw from personal experiences on how we were raised and how we turned out, then based on those recollections, since it was effective for us, then the same can be applied to next generations producing the same effect.

However, Justin Coulson, an Australian parenting expert argues the opposite:

The “I turned out just fine” argument is popular. It means that based on our personal experience we know what works and what doesn’t.
But the argument has fatal flaws.

Sure enough, one principle or practice in child-rearing may not apply to all cases. The same goes for every other thing in the world. There are other ways that may work for other people depending on the situation and context.

And since we're talking about children here, living, breathing human beings who can feel, think, perhaps not rationally most of the time, but still every experience they have has an impact on their lives.

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in my experience, most people who use the phrase "I turned out just fine", most definitely did NOT. they are often still struggling with the role their parents played in damaging them and are just trying to defend dear old mom and dad.
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I can't tell you how true this is and how quickly you realize it as a new parent. My stepmother got incensed when I told her the AAP suggests giving formula or breast milk to babies until they are 6 months old. Well she fed her babies food at 2 months and they turned out just fine. I told her some people used to give their babies morphine 100 years ago and they probably said the same thing.
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