How to Get Fathers to Share the Workload in Parenting: Let Him

Psst, moms! Want to know the secret of having your husbands pick up some of the workload at home? Here's the secret:

New research into the idea of "maternal gatekeeping" shows how attitudes and actions by the mother may promote or impede father involvement.

"For women who insist they have the gold standard around parenting and housework, men just tend to walk away," says Joshua Coleman, a clinical psychologist in San Francisco and Oakland. "They feel their own ideas about how the house should look or … how the children should be raised aren't given equal share."

Kenney presented research she co-wrote at a meeting of the Population Association of America over the weekend. The study of 1,023 couples from 20 large cities in the USA found mothers were protective of their caregiving and educational engagement with the child but were less so for playtime activities that "were not considered threats to the mother's caregiving identity," the paper says.

"Maybe he's not more involved because mom is holding him back," Kenney says.


Newest 5
Newest 5 Comments

My wife went back to work when our daughter was four months old and I had both kids to myself. They've been the happiest years of my life, it's just a shame they're now old enough for me not to really be able to justify staying at home. Particularly since the wife's been made redundant - from the Job Centre.
Abusive comment hidden. (Show it anyway.)
Yeah, that's right, let's blame the moms for the fathers' laziness. While we're at it, let's blame mothers worldwide for swine flu and the economic crisis.
Abusive comment hidden. (Show it anyway.)
Login to comment.

Email This Post to a Friend
"How to Get Fathers to Share the Workload in Parenting: Let Him"

Separate multiple emails with a comma. Limit 5.


Success! Your email has been sent!

close window

This website uses cookies.

This website uses cookies to improve user experience. By using this website you consent to all cookies in accordance with our Privacy Policy.

I agree
Learn More