Wow, I guess that makes sense. If you know you're pregnant and you have a miscarriage, doctors should automatically be cautious about that. But if you have no idea -that takes a lot of guess work. Still it should be something they should look into especially when pregnancy tests are so easy for them to run.
Uggg, that is awful. I'm glad your wife is ok. There was another woman on the FB page who had an ectopic pregnancy and the doctors didn't bother to look into it when she was having an extremely painful miscarriage -that should be one of the first things they look for. It's amazing how many doctors seem to just want to spend as little time as possible with their patients.
Personally, I don't have a problem with another artist putting up art that criticizes the bull. It was a guerrilla art piece and just because it has been legitimized by the city of New York doesn't mean that it should be revered any more than a graffiti mural on a wall. I don't like the idea of a corporation pretending to do guerrilla artwork as a marketing tactic. It goes against everything the movement is based on. I honestly find it sad how many "feminists" believe the whole thing really is empowering. Sorry, but if a Wall Street corporation takes up your cause as a marketing tactic, it's not empowering, it's just demeaning. That's why I personally love the pug. I even love the fact that he intentionally made it crappy and cheap though I hope he makes an improved version that can't be destroyed so easily.
I didn't gloss over your experiences, I told you they were different in that they didn't involve someone assuming you know nothing purely based on your gender. Offering new information isn't mansplaining and the fact that you think it is just proves that you don't understand the concept or why it's so problematic when men have had a history of literally telling women "not to worry their pretty little heads over it."
Your defending the guy in the motorcycle story shows that you really don't get it. Yeah, guys BS with each other, but they don't tend to go up to a random male stranger and act like he literally knows nothing. Try doing the exact same thing the guy in the story did to a male biker and you're likely to get punched in the face. And whether that bullshit comes from a place of flirting or the assumption that the woman really doesn't know anything doesn't make it better. Also, I don't know anyone who was impressed with the "I know everything/you know nothing" pick up technique in grade school, so anyone trying it as an adult really needs to grow the hell up.
I'm sorry that you think having emotions screwed you up for two decades. It's pretty hard to imagine how or why though when you literally have no examples and just complain that she "had me handle emotions like a woman would," which doesn't really seem like a problem. And sorry, but I didn't think we were having a contest over who had a worse experience, you talked about how I was being a hypocrite by criticizing medical professionals and I explained that many medical professionals still do stupid stuff.
Finally, I ignored the epidural question because the way you phrased it before didn't make it seem relevant to the conversation, but I get what you're saying so here goes. Yes, plenty of women get epidurals, but that just reduces the amount of pain you're going through and that drastically varies from woman to woman. I have heard of women who haven't had epidurals going through labor in five minutes and saying it was no worse than pooping. I've also heard of women with epidurals going through labor for 36+ hours and saying it was the most painful and awful experience of their lives. You're right, the medic could have been talking from the point of reference of his wife's labor or the woman who delivered on the way to the hospital and had super easy deliveries. It was still an ignorant thing to say because no, you can't simply all women's labor experiences as being no worse than pooping, but hey, maybe he was the one guy on the list who wasn't actually mansplaining.
Everyone has been talked down to by someone else. The difference with mansplaining is that the man assumes that he knows more than the woman just because of her gender. Do either of you really think that the guy trying to explain to the woman how her bike worked if she was a man, because I sure don't.
And PlaysWithWolves, yeah doctors and paramedics have experience with the medical side of things, but in these cases, neither of their pieces of advice are based on medical facts and these men have never and will never experience what they're trying to give advice on so yes, they would be better off staying silent rather than passing along incorrect information. I guarantee you any woman who has ever experienced bad cramps isn't going to tell you that getting a hobby will help.
Male OB/GYNs like this one are usually relics from a time before woman started taking over the field and unfortunately, they don't bother to read up on current medical science or even talk to their female colleagues about their personal experiences as people who actually have vaginas. I had a similar one who saw that I was thirty and hadn't had any children so he just assumed I never wanted to have kids. When I said I still did, he laughed and said "oh, so you're just a late bloomer." Maybe that was the case fifty years ago when he started in the field, but there are plenty of women these days who wait until their thirties to have kids. A quick look at his reviews online showed that he constantly made these types of outdated and offensive comments to his clients. Needless to say, I never went back.
Fair enough. Unfortunately, it seems like most Americans who say we shouldn't have to tip don't actually tip when they go to restaurants, which isn't making a political statement (no matter how many times they claim it is), but hurting someone who is just trying to earn a living.
Minimum wage SHOULD be enough to live on, but as long as federal minimum wage for tipped workers is so low, tipping SHOULD be compulsory and if you don't want to tip, you shouldn't use any services that require tipping. People want to make political statements (or just be cheap) about tipping and often end up screwing over the poor workers who have no say in it either way.
I adore Kimmy Schmidt and I think it was way better than Santa Clarita Diet, which I think is entertaining -but not great. Even so I agree that SCD was way lower on the list than it deserved to be. Question: Do you like 30 Rock? Maybe you just don't dig Tina Fey.
As for the Iron Fist thing, I think that whole "controversy" was just drummed up by publications looking for something to complain about to drive views. As you said he was white in the comics. Personally, I didn't think it was the best show, but it was still solid. My only complaint is that Danny was so dull -all the other characters were so great but he was just meh.
That's why I personally love the pug. I even love the fact that he intentionally made it crappy and cheap though I hope he makes an improved version that can't be destroyed so easily.
Your defending the guy in the motorcycle story shows that you really don't get it. Yeah, guys BS with each other, but they don't tend to go up to a random male stranger and act like he literally knows nothing. Try doing the exact same thing the guy in the story did to a male biker and you're likely to get punched in the face. And whether that bullshit comes from a place of flirting or the assumption that the woman really doesn't know anything doesn't make it better. Also, I don't know anyone who was impressed with the "I know everything/you know nothing" pick up technique in grade school, so anyone trying it as an adult really needs to grow the hell up.
I'm sorry that you think having emotions screwed you up for two decades. It's pretty hard to imagine how or why though when you literally have no examples and just complain that she "had me handle emotions like a woman would," which doesn't really seem like a problem. And sorry, but I didn't think we were having a contest over who had a worse experience, you talked about how I was being a hypocrite by criticizing medical professionals and I explained that many medical professionals still do stupid stuff.
Finally, I ignored the epidural question because the way you phrased it before didn't make it seem relevant to the conversation, but I get what you're saying so here goes. Yes, plenty of women get epidurals, but that just reduces the amount of pain you're going through and that drastically varies from woman to woman. I have heard of women who haven't had epidurals going through labor in five minutes and saying it was no worse than pooping. I've also heard of women with epidurals going through labor for 36+ hours and saying it was the most painful and awful experience of their lives.
You're right, the medic could have been talking from the point of reference of his wife's labor or the woman who delivered on the way to the hospital and had super easy deliveries. It was still an ignorant thing to say because no, you can't simply all women's labor experiences as being no worse than pooping, but hey, maybe he was the one guy on the list who wasn't actually mansplaining.
And PlaysWithWolves, yeah doctors and paramedics have experience with the medical side of things, but in these cases, neither of their pieces of advice are based on medical facts and these men have never and will never experience what they're trying to give advice on so yes, they would be better off staying silent rather than passing along incorrect information. I guarantee you any woman who has ever experienced bad cramps isn't going to tell you that getting a hobby will help.
Male OB/GYNs like this one are usually relics from a time before woman started taking over the field and unfortunately, they don't bother to read up on current medical science or even talk to their female colleagues about their personal experiences as people who actually have vaginas. I had a similar one who saw that I was thirty and hadn't had any children so he just assumed I never wanted to have kids. When I said I still did, he laughed and said "oh, so you're just a late bloomer." Maybe that was the case fifty years ago when he started in the field, but there are plenty of women these days who wait until their thirties to have kids. A quick look at his reviews online showed that he constantly made these types of outdated and offensive comments to his clients. Needless to say, I never went back.
As for the Iron Fist thing, I think that whole "controversy" was just drummed up by publications looking for something to complain about to drive views. As you said he was white in the comics. Personally, I didn't think it was the best show, but it was still solid. My only complaint is that Danny was so dull -all the other characters were so great but he was just meh.
This one has some relevant maps. The overdose one seems the most closely correlated -the areas with the most ODs seem to be least interested in marijuana use.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/10/22/america-drug-use-maps_n_5974592.html