well all i can say is that, not all men in every part of this world are good... some are also bad... and i have now a german bf and he is not selfish... he is also concern with what i feel and needs... he ask me first if i need...or i need more then he is willing to help me...(you know what i'm talking about) need not to elaborate! and in my point of view... my german bf is good in bed... and more exciting!!! well maybe it depends to the people you are dealing with what ever race he is!!!