Let me tell you this: I was the eldest of eleven...hated it! Older children do not have a childhood. It is stolen from them, for they and are expected to become adults at a very early age. For me, that age was five years old. That's when I had to stay home by myself (while my parents went shopping) and care for a younger sister, a set of twins, and an infant! I have never forgotten that. It scarred me for life! A young older sibling should not be expected to think and act like an adult. That said, I too detest the Duggars. Delusions have been created about this large family by the media and the parents themselves. I see right through this one.