A real dilemma here. My husband & I both detest the historical roots of name change; marriage meant the woman became here husband's property.
Thus my husband was completely understanding if I wanted to keep my last name. His mother kept her maiden name back in the '60s way before it was acceptable. My family has lived in our hometown for four generations now and our name carries a positive reputation (plus lots of family members). I was also reluctant to change my name as I am one of three daughters and wanted our name to live on.
However, we plan to have a family someday and I want to share my name with my children. We toyed with the idea of creating a new name but then we lose our family lineage; so many things to consider.
We were digging through family records and discovered his family was actually Johansson (not Johnson) when migrating from Sweden to America. We found our solution! We are both changing our names to the original family name and starting anew together. We will both go through the process of changing our identity while maintaining an intact lineage. Our children will share our name and take my maiden name as a middle name; as will I. Every couple has a different perceptive and a variety of considerations in this big decision. This was our solution and I am incredibly proud and happy with our decision. Good luck in your journey together.
Thus my husband was completely understanding if I wanted to keep my last name. His mother kept her maiden name back in the '60s way before it was acceptable. My family has lived in our hometown for four generations now and our name carries a positive reputation (plus lots of family members). I was also reluctant to change my name as I am one of three daughters and wanted our name to live on.
However, we plan to have a family someday and I want to share my name with my children. We toyed with the idea of creating a new name but then we lose our family lineage; so many things to consider.
We were digging through family records and discovered his family was actually Johansson (not Johnson) when migrating from Sweden to America. We found our solution! We are both changing our names to the original family name and starting anew together. We will both go through the process of changing our identity while maintaining an intact lineage. Our children will share our name and take my maiden name as a middle name; as will I. Every couple has a different perceptive and a variety of considerations in this big decision. This was our solution and I am incredibly proud and happy with our decision. Good luck in your journey together.