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Mirror, Mirror OFF the Wall: Woman Went Mirror-Free for 1 Year

When she was shopping for a wedding gown, bride-to-be Kjerstin Gruys realized how she was stressed over her body image. So the 29-year-old PhD student in sociology decided to embark on an experiment of sorts: to go mirror-free for an entire year to boost her self-esteem.

In her 20/20 interview, Kjerstin said:

"I thought I was going to find a dress that somehow fulfilled every dream, and that I'd enjoy the process of shopping for dresses, I'd feel my most beautiful. I'd find this perfect dress that complimented my body."

But instead, Gruys says dress shopping was a source of stress.

"I saw myself in the mirror and was being critical," she says. "I thought, Well, maybe I should lose a little weight before the wedding, always a bad thing to focus on when you have a history of an eating disorder.... I wasn't afraid of relapsing into my eating disorder, but I felt like a hypocrite because of how far I'd come."

Then Gruys read a passage in the book "Birth of Venus," describing an order of nuns in Renaissance Italy who had severe restrictions against vanity. "They didn't have mirrors in their lives. They were forbidden to look at each other when undressing. They were actually forbidden to look at themselves while they undressed."

For the first time in her life, Gruys said she was tempted to follow suit.

Kjerstin documented her experience on her blog Mirror, Mirror OFF the Wall: Link - via Oddity Central

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I'm no female, but this does remind me how every once in a while it hits me that I haven't seen what I look like for a few days. Instead of finding a mirror to take a look, I shrug it off and eat a steak pop.

After all, what do I need a mirror for? I remember what I look like.
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Pssh, you know she was still checking herself in reflective surfaces every chance she got like windows, tv/computer screens, spoons, etc. And what did she do when she went to public or friends' restrooms? Blindly reach for the sink and then the door?
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Ha! I'm way ahead of her. I stopped weighing myself about ten years ago, and stopped looking in the mirror a few years ago. Then again, my eyesight is pretty bad already, so there wasn't much use in looking anyway.
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