Parents of a Certain Age

I was almost 40 when my youngest child was born. Being an older mom isn't easy, but I personally have nothing to compare it to. New York Magazine has an extensive article on the growing number of women in their 50s and 60s who, with the help of modern technology, are becoming mothers for the first time. Some people think it's creepy, others are concerned about the children, and obstetricians worry about health problems. But some research finds a bright side.
In 2008, Brad Van Voorhis, head of the fertility clinic at the University of Iowa, decided he wanted to measure how well children conceived through in vitro fertilization do on intelligence tests, hoping to dispel lingering concerns about their cognitive abilities. So he and his team compared the standardized-test scores of 463 IVF kids ages 8 to 17 against the scores of other kids in their classes. They found that the IVF kids scored better overall and in every category of test—reading, math, and language skills. And they found that the older the mother, the better the kid performed.

Van Voorhis guesses that the children of older mothers outperform their peers because the mothers, who’ve waited so long to have them, are more engaged. It’s a recipe for success: “Fewer kids at home, more attention to the kids they do have, and more money to devote to their education.” Other studies corroborate these findings. In research published in the journal Fertility and Sterility in 2007, Richard Paulson, head of the fertility program at the University of Southern California, found that mothers in their fifties reported less parental stress than those in their thirties and forties, the same level of mental functioning, and the same perception of fatigue. The fiftysomething women in his small national sample, incidentally, were also less likely than their counterparts to employ a nanny. They are more checked in.

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in one of "The Conversations with God" books he points out that while it's biologically most healthful for young couples to have children, the children would be best served if they were raised by their grandparents, to allow the parents to mature into their lives and develop their careers. sounds like wise advice.
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Back when I was born in 1976, my mother was 46 and my father was 58. I was conceived naturally...before Viagra was invented. ;) Granted, I've come to the conclusion that I was probably a menopausal oops. I am an only child and the youngest of nine. I was the only child from my parents, but my mother had three children from a previous marriage and my father had five children from his previous marriages. The youngest of my half-siblings was born in 1953 and the eldest was born in 1937.

My father was retired from his job by the time that I was in second grade. It seemed as though they had more time to spend with me. During most of my life, both of my parents were accessible at home to take me to sports games or other after school activities. At times, I think that they were rather overprotective.

It made some things harder. They weren't quite able to go outside and play with me much. I do remember my mom coming out and building snowmen with me and trying to play catch with me for softball.

I do remember attending a few funerals as a small child,, as there were a good number of older relatives in my family. I think that I was introduced to my first funeral before I was in kindergarten. I was only able to meet my maternal grandmother as all of my other grandparents had passed away before I came along.

I was somewhat young when I lost my parents. I was 25 when my mother (71) passed away and my father (86) passed away when I was 28. I would have loved to have had them around for a bit longer. They were at least able to see me graduate from high school, but I missed having them at my college graduation (I went to college late because I was looking after my parents for a bit) in 2007 and my wedding in 2010. Plenty of people talk of the dead "being there in spirit," but that's cold comfort and just not the same.
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Weather you are a good parent is not determined by your age but by your character. Having said that, I still see that it is mostly very young parents who make the fatal mistakes of shaking a baby (out of frustration) and it is quite unlikely for very young parents (early twenties) to stay together for a lifetime.
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Go figure that the studies that say older moms are just peachy keen were done by FERTILITY DOCTORS, no ulterior motives there eh?

I'm sure you could get mostly the same study results by looking at 20 something mom's from families with old school money.

There's numerous reasons nature makes it hard to juice up a 45+ year old ovum.
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My mom had me at 35 and in 1987 she was classified as a 'geriatric mother'. Even though my mom is a lot older than all of my friends' moms, we have the best relationship by far.
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