After Kim Mordue lost her son, she decided to carry him with her forever in her heart ... and in her tattoos:
Three years ago, Kim Mordue lost her son Lloyd to a fatal run in with the party drug GHB. Kim’s husband runs a tattoo parlor, and together they’ve found a way to deal with her grief with ink. Lloyd’s ashes have been mixed with tattoo ink, and used to give Kim a new tat. When asked about the tattoo, she had the following to say:
As soon as I knew it was possible, I wanted to have the ashes tattoos as a tribute to him. Now, he’ll be with me for the rest of my life.
http://inkarttattoos.com/tattoo-blog/mother-tattooed-with-dead-sons-ashes/ | Story by Richard Smith at Mirror
Sadly, it is not a snap judgment on my part. Of course it's an extremely terrible thing to have happen. I have seen it before. I know a woman who is so emotionally crippled by the death of her son that she is unable to let go. She cannot deal with the death of her pets. When she moves, she digs them (and their little grave markers) up out of the back yard and takes them with her. She tries to keep his old car running, even though it's falling apart, and repair costs are ruinous. She can't let go of the grief.
A tattoo in memory of your child? Sounds fine. A tattoo with your child's ashes? Raises a few eyebrows. She doesn't need to let go of the memory, but if she's not careful, she will be consumed by her grief.
You're the one who should learn to let go. Of your shortsighted snap judgments.
I also think that ted is right, too.
I remember moms without tattoos and kids who said no to drugs. I guess my sentimentality is getting the better of me.