For Shame, For Shame: How to End Shaming When Disciplining "First, discipline is not about punishing, nor about getting even. Discipline is about correcting and teaching appropriate behavior. Secondly, the rule “praise in public, reprimand in private,” is important to remember. When parents shame their children in public by yelling, name-calling, and even spanking, the parent-child relationship is broken down more than the behavior is corrected. Although, not intended, the parents’ own embarrassment, disappointment and shame are projected onto the child."
Is publicly humiliating your child a form of abuse? "While it may kill the initial problem, its long-term consequences can be incredibly damaging, Mr. Walters says. He points to ample evidence from academic research that shows that when parents consistently use shaming as a punishment, these children grow up to be more depressed, anxious and less confident than children who aren’t subjected to such discipline." ... "The bottom line for experts is that there is an important distinction between humiliation and disapproval: It’s healthy for parents to object to misbehaviour and to explain that it results in bad consequences, but humiliation is about attacking the child’s self-esteem, and that is not okay, said Mr. Walters."
For Shame, For Shame: How to End Shaming When Disciplining
"First, discipline is not about punishing, nor about getting even. Discipline is about correcting and teaching appropriate behavior. Secondly, the rule “praise in public, reprimand in private,” is important to remember. When parents shame their children in public by yelling, name-calling, and even spanking, the parent-child relationship is broken down more than the behavior is corrected. Although, not intended, the parents’ own embarrassment, disappointment and shame are projected onto the child."
Is publicly humiliating your child a form of abuse?
"While it may kill the initial problem, its long-term consequences can be incredibly damaging, Mr. Walters says. He points to ample evidence from academic research that shows that when parents consistently use shaming as a punishment, these children grow up to be more depressed, anxious and less confident than children who aren’t subjected to such discipline."
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"The bottom line for experts is that there is an important distinction between humiliation and disapproval: It’s healthy for parents to object to misbehaviour and to explain that it results in bad consequences, but humiliation is about attacking the child’s self-esteem, and that is not okay, said Mr. Walters."