IMHO, living in more populated areas has changed what we consider community. In small, rural towns there isn't a lot to tie people together - so high school buddies, local school sporting events, family history and church count for a lot. I moved from a major metropolitan area to a town of <6K. Yes, it was difficult to adjust. I am still referred to as the person who bought the Webber house (and they haven't owned the house since the 60's). I had to put more into the effort of making friends than what I considered to be my fair share, but it was worth it. It's a different experience; it takes some adjustment.