Don't Judge your Bride and Groom. I give money anyway. If it helps them in any way then I have given a gift that is appropriate. Come on Ladies and Gents. What crime is it to help a loved one to have her dream. Unless you aren't a friend or loved one, you decide. Are you willing to be Judge and Jury and find your loved one guilty of having a dream that she obviously just wants to be able to share with you. look you will give a gift anyway as should be. But you won't support your friends/loved one? If you were going to spend 20.00 on a gift that they don't need. Whats the difference. You have saved them the time and gas money it would take to return it and they get to enjoy their big beautiful dream wedding with you...the gift that matters most. Snap out of it People! It is now 2009 and anything goes. The only thing that I find unacceptable here is the quick willingness of people to Judge. It is not our God given right. Give the gift, Go to the Wedding, Enjoy what you have given along with your Loved ones and relish in the feeling that you made a girls dream come true. dreams are hard to come by these days and what better gift. God bless this Couple. From a stranger who couldn't afford a single dream.