It doesn't read to me that she was complaining about saying "Venti" "Tall" or "Grande." She's quoted as saying "I refused to say ‘without butter or cheese.'" If she refused to say that, then the cashier would have said something like "Would you like butter or cheese with that?" And all she'd have to say is "No thank you." So basically that's what she's complaining about.
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