I'm Chinese-American and I grew up with parents like Amy. While I have multiple degrees and am considered successful financially, I considered myself terrible lacking in creativity. I also find it difficult to just relax, enjoy life, and appreciate all that I have. I feel enslaved to a drive to achieve and plagued by perpetual insecurity. My husband, on the other hand, was raise in that encouraging fun environment. As a child, he played D&D, tons of video games, had sleep overs, and tons of independence. Guess what, he ended up graduating from MIT and became Vice President of a large company much earlier than I. I would call this article "garbage" and I hope no one uses it as a good example of parenthood.