Men: Can You Deal With It If Your Wife Wore the Pants in the Family?

When asked how he felt that his wife earns more than him, New Jersey Governor Chris Christie said, "Listen. I just have three words for you: joint checking account. That money all lands in the same place, baby."

In 2011, Mary Pat Christie, a bond trader, earned more than $307,000 whereas her Republican governor husband earned a bit more than half her pay, $175,000. The trend of the wife being the breadwinner of the family - a role reversal from the traditional Ozzie and Harriet family in sitcom of the 50s - has been gaining in the United States.

Dennis Cauchon of USA TODAY wrote:

A USA TODAY analysis of Census Bureau data reveals a revolution in the traditional roles of men and women that extends from college campuses to the workplace to the neighborhoods across this nation. Today, when one spouse works full-time and the other stays home, it's the wife who is the sole breadwinner in a record 23% of families, the analysis finds. When the Census started tracking this in 1976, the number was 6%.

What do you think of the trend?

Men, How Would You Feel if Your Wife Makes More Money Than You?






If I didn't earn more than my husband, we'd be surely poor indeed. But being the "breadwinner" is way different from earning more than your spouse. The term breadwinner is for families in which one earns all, or the vast majority, of the family's income. I don't see the Christies starving even if one of them loses a job -far from it.
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I wouldn't mind if my wife made more than I do. And she has, in the past. But it would bother me if I wasn't working professionally because that's a part of my identity.

When we got married, our mutual goal was to be in a position in which she could stay home and take care of our kids while I worked. We've gotten there in the past few years. The traditional gender roles don't work for every family, but they've worked well for us.

But I don't "wear the pants" in the family in the sense that I'm in charge. We're both in charge. We just have different roles. The fact that I earn the paychecks doesn't give me special authority.
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I am a SAHD dad who hasn't worked more than part time (outside the home) in years. My wife is and has been the breadwinner in our family for years. It hasn't always sat well with some extended family or peers, but I have never felt the slightest bit diminished by her success and most of our friends and family have been supportive. She is a physicist currently working as an engineer in a predominantly male industry and I am a kickass homemaker.
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