Wedded Bliss Lasts 4 Years

• Jess
  April 5th, 2008 at 4:24 am

  I’ve read research elsewhere that long-term relationships in general usually fail around the four-year mark, regardless of marriage. The theory I read states that before this stage what we are experiencing is “limerance” - or the “can’t stop thinking about you” type of love. This causes us to see the object of our desire through rose-coloured glasses, but after about the four year mark when the limerance fades, we are confronted with what the person is really like and we can’t always handle it. But when we can still love and acccept a person for who they are past the crazy stage of limerance, that’s real love.

• Thomas
  April 5th, 2008 at 9:20 am

  deep.

• CheeseDuck
  April 5th, 2008 at 12:29 pm

  Huh.

• L
  April 5th, 2008 at 1:31 pm

  Does that include children or not? Because I would think that wedded bliss fades much faster when you’re sleep deprived and cleaning up poop all day.

• Christophe
  April 5th, 2008 at 1:43 pm

  Ah, the good times of “fewer chores”…

• Christophe
  April 5th, 2008 at 3:12 pm

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• Ali S.
  April 5th, 2008 at 4:08 pm

  Well, I guess it depends on how you want to deal with your relationship.

• Aeris
  April 5th, 2008 at 4:34 pm

  I’ve heard about the whole limerance stuff before, however it also said that after that time ends you basically shouldn’t expect everything to stay all good and gravy, you have to put effort into the relationship. If you make your partner happy, he/she will want to make you happy and everything is fine.

• Barbwire
  April 5th, 2008 at 11:43 pm

  If you stay married long enough, you fall in love again for a while every now and then.

• MoonCake
  April 6th, 2008 at 8:39 am

  i’m never getting married. it’s just a document. real marriages last ’til death do us part, document or not. and most of the time people get married after knowing the other for only a short period of time as compared to the “lifetime” you agree to commit to them in marriage. i’m sure divorce rates would go waaay down if people lived together for a couple years before they got married. i’m in a loving relationship of 2 years and we live together. we always say we’ll never get married and have kids, and we want to stay together for a long, long time. we complete each other. and i think that’s what SHOULD be important if you get married at all. damn drive-through chapels.. thanks las vegas.

• sadtomato
  April 6th, 2008 at 12:50 pm

  Mooncake
  What you say is a nice theory but still does not always work. I lived with my husband for 3 years before we were married and it still ended. Most folks I know who are divorced lived with their partner for at least a year before getting married. Nobody gets married thinking that it will end. We get married thinking that we have the best relationship ever and we will be together forever. Things change, people change. Sometimes it’s not fixable.

• Dave
  April 6th, 2008 at 5:52 pm

  Indeed, things change and people change, but the only time it’s not fixable is when one of the two parties involved doesn’t want it to be fixed. The trouble with most couples is that divorce is to readily considered as a solution to difficulties that arise.

• Derek
  April 8th, 2008 at 9:37 am

  This is not the sort of thing I should be reading 5 days before my wedding!

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