Not insane, just brainwashed. Abusive men will convince a woman that she is at fault, he loves her, she makes him do these things, it's all her fault. Besides that, the time an abusive man is most likely to kill a woman is when she attempts to leave him.
In 1965, I participated in a taste test between Mountain Dew and Kickapoo Joy Juice, which was exciting because I was just a little kid, and the names of both products were funny. But I couldn't tell any difference between them. My parents never bought soda, so I wasn't used to carbonation at all.
If you stop at a convenience store in Kentucky, and they have seven refrigerated units, five of them will be filled with Mountain Dew, one will have Coke and Pepsi, and one will have everything else.
Now I have learned that what we used to call "fancy sandwiches" was really "struggle pizza." The difference is that we always had bread, but rarely had pizza dough. My dad would make "fancy sandwiches" by putting an open-face salami and cheese in the oven.
Besides that, the time an abusive man is most likely to kill a woman is when she attempts to leave him.