Good guys and scientists have pondered the question of "why are women attracted to bad boys" for ages. Now, Peter Jonason of New Mexico State University has figured out why bad boys seem to get their women: statistics - they just try more often!
According to a new study, men who are narcissistic, thrill-seeking liars and all round "bad boys" tend to have the greatest success finding more sexual partners.
Scientists believe that the root of their good fortune is simply that they try it on with more women, therefore by the law of averages are likely to ensnare more.
They say these type of men adopt a more predatory, scatter gun approach to conquests and have more of a desire to try new things which helps when it comes to meeting women, according to the study highlighted by New Scientist magazine.
Remember it is quality NOT quantity of lovers
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A lot of people (women and men) have a deep submissive streak, it's much more common than a dominant streak. Thus, we respond to "strength" much more than weakness. (To be submissive and find a lot of partners, you have to be so cute that people will seek you out and pursue you. A homely or aging submissive is generally outta luck.) Men and women are very attracted to sexually aggressive people, up to a point. But the old adage holds true: you date the wild ones, but marry the nice ones. Being a jerk becomes a lot less attractive as times goes by, and becomes a huge liability in terms of finding possible mates after 40 or so.
Women being attracted to "bad boys" is one of those things that does not speak well of our species. Men act horribly to impress women, and women respond and reward the men by sleeping with them, and thus the men continue to act horribly while women (and other guys) complain about all the jerk guys in the world. (Jerky women are also pretty popular with boys, but their jerkiness doesn't tend to have the catastrophic, worldwide impact that male jerkiness does. Women don't start wars to impress guys.) It's a horrible cycle, and we won't break it until girls own up to their role in helping to make the world miserable, and stop flocking after nasty idiots. Guys will do anything to impress the ladies, so ladies have to show them that being a bad person is not impressive.
(And no, I do not actually imagine that one message board comment is gonna change the world.)
Exact same thing with bad girls & good boys. It's just an attraction to excitement. Hardly rocket science. However, it's not likely to lead to true happiness so much as a string of one-night stands, so it's not really that enticing to me. I'm only attracted insofar as fictional characters.. in real life, I much prefer my nice-guy fiancé, thanks.
I think its also a lack of self esteem, once you feel like you understand someone or you've WON THEM over you get bored and you want to move on to someone you feel you haven't conquered
it's like a hierarchy i think of people you might think are better or worse and i'm not sure now..
it's all about MONEY, now.
Don't matter whether you're good looking, a bad boy or an imitator - if you've got the dough and are willing to splash, you'll get what you want.
Thats like saying "Why do bears seek picnic baskets?"
Well you see, there are more pic-a-nic baskets in Yellowstone Park than there are on the streets of Brooklyn. So really, it's the law of averages.
The answer and the question are barely related!
So you're telling me Johnny Depp, in his 21 Jump Street days, was adored and lusted after by women all over the globe because he... propositioned more girls than the competition?? That doesn't make sense.
max weber coined this money/status relationship in sociology long before it was such a huge problem (as it is today). the best example comes from a window washer- while doing his job atop high-rise buildings on manhatten island, NY, he would see inside these expensive pent houses and apartments. he thought how nice it would be to live in one of these expensive abodes, until he saw what was actually contained inside most of them: absolutely nothing. people would spend loads upon LOADS of money just to be able to have that boulevard address, not allowing them to afford much of anything else. what an illustration of american culture. we flash our spending abilities every single day as means of displaying status. why else would girls flock to buy fake prada/gucci/louie vutton bags? why else would people buy pleather? why else do sports cars even exist? all these are to flex the muscles of our wallet, regardless of whether there's any money in it.. hence our credit-card dependence.
do 'bad boys' APPEAR to be wealthy? some yes, some no. there's the 007 bad-boy wearing a nice suit driving a nice car, and then there's the biker bad-boy touting leather and tattoos. the nice suit and car are attractive to women because it says "this man has money to spend and a good time to have," while the biker-boy is attractive because he appears to be "broken" and women need something to fix. i've dated both of them, and they both suck. i'm keeping my video-game geek because he's soft, poor, and he loves me unconditionally.
And many women like confidence and dominance in a guy. Bad boys shows these traits to the untrained eye. They seem confident (most aren't, actually, but they fake it well) and they seem dominant around their fellow men, either through physical prowess or putting other men down. It's "Alpha Male" syndrome. Many nice guys don't help the situation, because they act timid and submissive, the opposite of what most women want. She sees confident dominant guy and timid submissive guy. Which would YOU choose?
Eventually though most smart women see through the Bad Boy thing, and at the same time many nice guys learn to display real confidence (especially if they are smart/educated and start making good money). So the Bad boys win in high school, college and through much of their 20's. But after that... they are left with with very little. The nice guys, so long as they learn confidence, stand a better chance in the long haul.
It seems like a game, a game of act this way and get something in return
who would i chose? I actually like shy women, confident women tend to be really snotty and thats just not my thing
At the end of the day, I doubt you can say more than half of either group is doing great with the ladies, the difference is that one group isn't putting that much effort into it.
Anyway, is there such a thing as an objective criteria for what constitutes "good" and "bad"? When was that settled?
"Could one of you pussycats stop moaning for 5 seconds, get your fingers of the keyboard, and try to put them to better use -- then I'll give you a reason to moan."
We been together for 3 and a half years now.
So people, just keep wearing down that other person till they eventually give in! ;)
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Which dumb gal would like a closed person siting in a library or dreaming of chess.. sheesh!!!