Mom Sent 7-Year-Old Adopted Son Back to Russia

Good thing she kept her receipt.

Something is very wrong with this story. How could this woman not know about any of the resources available to help children in the US, and why didn't she even try to find out HOW to do a legal disruption? I know people who have given up legal rights to their BIOLOGICAL children in order to get them the therapy they needed, after trying all other avenues. The FIRST place she should have called was her adoption agency, because they've seen this kind of thing before. The story didn't mention if the boy had his American citizenship, but her agency could have helped her one way or another.

It sounds as if the boy is better off away from this woman. Didn't the adoption agency do any kind of screening in this case?

He wasn't crazy.
She just forgot to give him his vodka
all Russians need.

Wow. I bet most parents wish (some days) that they could return their children. But very few actually follow through on it.

Orphans from Russia and Eastern Europe are not treated well over there. Many infants will die because they aren't getting nurturing attention. These youngsters act out because they believe that the parents who adopt them are actually THEIR parents that have come back to get them after abandoning them. There was an article about this in Reader's Digest a couple years back. It takes patience and understanding to raise a child like that.

Also, it says that the Russian Prime Minister and other people are trying to prohibit Americans from adopting their kids because of this reason; well, we're not the problem, their system is!

This woman shouldn't have been allowed to adopt in the first place probably. What did she expect? Almost all older children have some sort of problem. RESOURCES. THEY HAVE THEM. Unfortunately, this child will be further scarred for life and this ungodly cycle may continue.

Why didn't she send him by FedEx or DHL??
Anyhow, it's him and the Russian Prime Minister who're to be blamed here by the American want-to-be-moms for yelling a lot...

russian children almost all suffer from attachment disorder and have what would be described for an adult as psychopathic behavior. i know someone who , for some strange reason, adopted a russian child.the kid is insane. he's headed straight to prison

the woman was afraid for her life - she had a near toddler threatening to kill her and her family. there is nothing that can be done for this poor child execpt to institutionalize him.

This woman was NOT a good candidate for adoption. ANY older child being adopted will have some issues and will need understanding and probably some counseling; she obviously was expecting a "perfect" child. This poor child needed much more than she was able to give and was probably "damaged goods" from years in the orphanages over there. It would have taken more time than a few months for him to adjust to life here; much more than she was willing to give. Adoption is NOT something to been done without A LOT of deep thought, ESPECIALLY with an older child. She sounds like a true idiot. Personally, I think it's time we start adopting the children we have here in the US waiting for homes instead of going elsewhere....There are PLENTY, folks.

After reading the article. I dunno. I sympathize with the woman.
No it wasn't right that she just pretty much shipped him off alone. Not condoning that behaviour at all.
BUT, I'm sure she wasn't expecting the child to act the way he did either.
I remember watching some news program (probably 20/20), that talked abou Russian orphans and how many of them do suffer from emotional problems.
I think it followed a couple who adopted 2? brothers from Russia, and both had emotional issues that they were at their wits end trying to deal with.

Anywho... was the way she handled the situation right? No, but I beieve that she was probably lied to as well.

And it's ridiculous for them to ban American's from adopting.

She did the right thing. All Russians are criminals.

I wasn't there, so I don't know exactly how bad he was, but I get the feeling he was just full of crap, like most kids, and trying to appear tough (likely more to his peers than anyone). Probably he learned to act this way to cope with the cruelty of the other children he lived with in Russia. But he sounds like dozens of kids I knew growing up, who bragged about things (arson, robbery, murder) that they obviously never did. The majority of them ended up normal.

In the end, of course, it's probably best that he's not with this family any more. They clearly couldn't handle him. I just hope he ends up somewhere where he gets the kind of counseling he probably needs, or this second abandonment could mess him up permanently.

As an outsider - not being American nor Russian - I must say that the comments here prove that there are massive prejudices on both sides.
Not all Americans have a "Two-week-return-guarantee"-mentality. And it IS silly to ban ALL Americans from adoption just because this ONE case.
But calling ALL Russians criminals just because adopted children are in emotional trouble (isn't that true in most adopted children - coming from troubled backgrounds, families...?) is pretty short-sighted, too.
Do you seriously think that adopting and raising an older kid from say, Brazil or Guatemala or just anywhere in the world would be easier because Brazilians are "less criminal?

Adoption is different to having an own child. Nothing new there.
Authorities should inform adoptive parents-to-be better as to what adoption means for the whole family, especially if the child comes from a totally different cultural background.

Still there is no excuse for acting like that as parents. There must be places in the US where to turn to in such a situation.

Hey, what happened to my comment? First it was here, needed moderation, now it's gone. I can't imagine that there was anything written there offending anyone...

Ha, now it's there again...
Hmm. I should check my muesli for hallucinogens...
Sorry for these off-topic comments!
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Obviously this woman will want to make herself sound like the injured party now that her actions have attracted the attention of the media and the Russian and US governments. I'm willing to bet she's vastly exaggerating anything the poor little boy did. She just didn't want to put in the love, time, and effort to help him - in which case she had no business adopting him in the first place! She should be charged with child abandonment and I hope social services starts monitoring her with her other child(ren). Anyone who is willing to trust a seven year old to random strangers online sounds like a completely unfit parent to me. She didn't make any effort to go through the proper channels to reverse the adoption or get the child help. People treat pulled sweaters better when they return them than this woman treated a small child. She's disgusting.

I don't condone what this woman did.
But seriously. I won't buy anything off eBay sight unseen, and that's for like a purse or a pair of shoes. A KID?!
You better believe I would NEVER adopt a kid without getting to know it first! That is one of the "privileges" of adopting versus just having one of your own...

While this woman is clearly an idiot, Russian adoptions are a whole nother can of crazy.

First up, Russian woman have no issue with abortion, and ready access. They end up having one or two wanted children and have no compunction about terminating unwanted pregnancies. So when you get a kid in an orphanage, odds are much higher than in other places that there is a serious reason the child has been abandoned. The older the child, the more it's been bounced around the system and rejected, and damaged.

At that point, attachment disorder is no joke. It's basically sociopath city. These are pet-killing situations, if not worse. Check it out before going whole hog on condemning this woman. She acted the irresponsible fool and surely added insult to clear injury for this child, but the reality was quite likely honestly horrific. It's very common and Russian adoption-specific. Happens a lot and the Russian government routinely hides profound psychological conditions from prospective adoptive parents. Single mothers are allotted less desirable kids. It's ugly.

that woman should be in jail. i saw that at the same time she was trying to adopt another child!

NO CHILD SHOULD EVER BE AROUND THIS WOMAN AND HER FAMILY!

If the adoption process wasn't so horribly expensive and difficult, then these children would be adopted when they are infants and thus not have seven years of abuse which has shaped their identities. The fact that societies allow this outrageous expense and difficulty is a huge injustice to the children and the couples who can't have bio children. It is disgusting that adoption is not quick and inexpensive. Any crack whore on the street can pop out bio kids all day long, and yet stable loving couples have to pay $40,000 and go through hell to adopt a baby. Sickening.

So people feel that this mother should be in jail? Hmmmm..... So If you were to purchese a lets say car, and within the course of 60 to 90 days you come to the realization that the car was in fact a defective vehicle, would you keep the wheels? I for one wouldn't. If I purchase enything and afterwards find out that its allready screwed up guess what, I return it. Now its not as if I endorse warrenty on children, however this kid had some substantial mental issues. Lets look at the facts, this child had a "hit list" with his sisters name at the top of the list, he threatened to kill his brother over a video-game, he bragged about burning a building in russia, and the mother found him trying to start a fire in his bedroom!
When he was returned he was watched over by a stewerdest and at his arrival was handed over to a driver. Lastly I know these people are benevolent, but don't we have a great deal of orphans who need families in our own nation?