Adopted at 23 Years of Age

Like many foster children who "age out" of the system, 23-year-old John had given up hope of ever being adopted. Then he met Mark Hauck and his partner, Tim Ferraro, who became his friends ... and later, parents:

The soda shot out of John's nose when Mark asked the question. He thought that maybe he hadn't heard Mark correctly.

"We'd like you to be our son," Mark offered. "We'll leave it up to you to decide."

But John didn't have an answer. He asked for a few days to think about his decision. At first, John grew angry when he thought about their offer to adopt him.

"I don't think I was used to the level of commitment they were offering," John said. "An adoption can't end."

The permanency Mark and Tim promised was a striking contrast from his past. When John stirred trouble, the state moved him to another foster home. When he acted violently, the state punished him by sending him to residential treatment.

Several days later, John appeared at Mark and Tim's door with his belongings. John decided he was tired of spending Christmas and birthdays alone. He realized, even as an adult, that he still needed parents to provide him advice -- and compassion. He wanted a family of his own.

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Actually, if you work with young people who have spent most of their lives in "the system" you discover that many of them experience significant delays in development. They are all over the map due to trauma and constant disruption of their growing up years. Ironically, these kids are expected to be adults at 18 when they are often functioning as young adolescents in many areas of their lives. Adoption also provides legal kinship--parents, grandparents, other siblings, aunts, uncles, cousins. This is significant in terms of both medical emergencies and inheritance rights. There are many good reasons for a young adult to be legally adopted by a family if they have none of their own.
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Check your Roman History boys and girls. A declining Roman ruler would quite often adopt a 'son' well past the age of twenty.

Why is there a need to judge others? Let them live their lives as they wish.
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Actually, i think a gay couple adopting a kid is completely wrong. I strongly disapprove of that AND of gay marriage by the way. And grown people adopting grown-ups? I find that very odd.
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Actually, i think a gay couple adopting a kid is completely normal. I strongly approve of that AND of gay marriage by the way. But grown people adopting grown-ups? I find that very odd.
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