Comments on: Outsourcing Elderly Care -to India!

By: Ravi

Ravi — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 17:54:57 +0000

Hello Francis, Good Day. I am Medical Doctor from South India. I am interested in taking care of elderly (Geriatric Patients). You can call me on 91-9440798233 for any help.
Thank You

By: stephen

stephen — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 16:04:21 +0000

Our thoughts on the offshore outsourcing of ones family...

http://www.offshore-today.com/2009/06/elderly-care-sending-your-loved- ones-to-india.html

from http://www.offshore-today.com the offshore blog

By: retasker

retasker — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 02:32:18 +0000

If one reads the original article (link at the end of the last paragraph of the text) one finds that the situation is not as most have interpreted it.

Steve went to India with them and had friends and help there. To me it sounds pretty good. Certainly better than at a lot of US care facilities.

By: J Chicago

J Chicago — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 19:17:46 +0000

Francey, I'd do the same thing. I don't have children to take care of me in my old age. The sad truth is that many elderly parents can't count on their children to do the right thing anyway. I think the best thing is to make plans for a situation when you may need some assistance. A nice climate and exotic location far removed from your children would be a wonderful idea. A lot of folks have relocated to affordable retirement communities in Central American countries and have access to excellent health care and in-home staff. Then there's the added bonus of living with other elderly Americans as neighbors, so it doesn't feel too foreign. Also, it's short flight back to the U.S. from say Panama or Cost Rica. Also, look into providing for a worthy charity in your estate. Sounds like your children don't deserve much consideration in your will anyway.

By: Miss Cellania

Miss Cellania — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 17:39:52 +0000

Francey, if I were you I would do just that. Travel to many places, have fun, and check out where you might want to stay in case your health went downhill. I hope you stay healthy a long time!

By: Francey

Francey — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 16:27:45 +0000

What a GREAT idea! Hey, I'm 81 and my kids have treated me like crap for the last 20 years because I don't act like an old lady and they can't 'rule' me. I thank my Creator for allowing me to be perfectly healthy and able to be on my own up to now. This article provided me with the perfect solution to my problem: Who am I going to leave all my money and estate to? I'm going to investigate Mexico, Thailand, India and wherever I can go to live out the last years of my life in comfort and pleasure. Living with and being abused in any way by my kids here in the USA, as they are praying for me to die so they can inherit my Estate, fills me with so much dread that I was wondering what to do. NOW I know what I'm going to do. Thank you Thank you for this great article. My dilemma is solved. Frances

By: Indian AliG

Indian AliG — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 11:54:10 +0000

@Ally,
not only might the daycare be cheaper, the school education standards are better if you leave out the preparation for NFL.NBA.MLB and NHL portions.

By: col mcg

col mcg — Fri, 05 Jun 2009 18:37:02 +0000

This would be excellent for my racist uncle!

By: ted

ted — Fri, 05 Jun 2009 14:28:09 +0000

Violet, I'd only be concerned that they're respecting that person's wishes, culture, and religious beliefs.

The woman in this picture may never have imagined she would one day be dressed in a sari with a dot on her forehead. What other traditions might they be imposing on her without her ability to form an objection?

By: Ali S.

Ali S. — Thu, 04 Jun 2009 03:32:32 +0000

@ Violet

I'm so jealous right now. You are in warm and sunny Mexico by the beach!! Argh!!

By: kamala

kamala — Thu, 04 Jun 2009 02:59:28 +0000

This brings up good discussion and that is a good thing. People need to understand the challenges that are faced when a person is not able to 'function' fully in our society or in their personal life. It is a humbling experience - for the person - and for the family/care takers.
With our economy & demographics changing, this is going to be a very lively conversation for some time to come.

By: violet

violet — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 03:25:38 +0000

@ted: Short answer, yes. The best I can do is imagine myself as an ancient, dementia-addled soul who wants to be comfortable and cared for in my final years, and I see this as a Very viable alternative to the most common situation, which is being sort-of-cared-for in a crap place while my loved ones figure out how they can avoid visiting this week. Just because they didn't know their caretakers in their conscious life doesn't mean the level of care they're getting isn't great, and anyway a nursing home would be the same difference--except that certain cultures value the old more than others and so treat them much better. Also: Hi! I moved to Mexico and am right now listening to the ocean do its thing in a beach front room with deck for ten dollars a night. The point being...do what works for you. And you're all invited to visit. Except for Evilbeagle. Kidding! Hasta...

By: Bryan C

Bryan C — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 00:17:49 +0000

I can see why people would find this offensive. Really, though, but for the distances involved (somewhat less in the UK) it doesn't seem that radical to me. I'd certainly prefer this to wasting away from benign neglect or being quietly euthanized in a nursing home.

By: Christophe

Christophe — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 20:07:24 +0000

Brilliant idea, but desperate idea. I hope the children found peace in their heart : it must not have been an easy choice.

By: ted

ted — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 17:00:43 +0000

So if they have dementia, it`s okay to do whatever you want with them?

Sure, let's paint her face. She won't mind.

By: Skipweasel

Skipweasel — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 15:28:25 +0000

Perhaps the old folks could have shipped their kids off to India all those years ago.

By: Miss Cellania

Miss Cellania — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 15:14:07 +0000

I wonder how many of the people who condemn this plan ever took care of an elderly person who suffers from Alzheimers and other physical problems requiring 24 hour care -without help. Or even respite. Or have investigated and priced nursing homes.

By: Gauldar

Gauldar — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 15:07:24 +0000

I find it amusing to hear that people think they were sent there against their will. Please, for your sake read the article before commenting.

By: Ally

Ally — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 14:54:34 +0000

Hey, why don't we send our little children to India also? I bet their day care is cheaper than ours!

Seriously though, our parents care for us and love us from the day we are born, it is our responsibility to return the favor. The elderly are to be loved and respected.

Somehow, when the exterior changes, some people forget that the person remains unchanged. My parents haven't changed a bit, I know for sure that they would still give me an ass whooping I did anything like that to them.

By: marishka

marishka — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 14:48:45 +0000

Geez--my mom raised holy hell to move from a big house to a smaller, more manageable apartment. I can only imagine the reaction of trying to send her to India! Well, better that then an ice floe....

By: Ankash

Ankash — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 12:41:40 +0000

The next outsourcing wave !!!

By: Creeped out guy

Creeped out guy — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 11:12:51 +0000

Hopefully this won't come across judgemental but, WOW!, I would quit my job, scrape, scrounge, pick up a second job, to take care of my elderly parents. I don't believe it's that impossible to keep one's elderly parents here at home without haveing to bust the bank.
Just imaagine if it were possible when he was a baby and they were too busy to take care of him so they decided to ship him off to a foreign country cause it was cost effective.
Maybe on the other hand, these poor elderly parents had it coming to them for how they may have raised their son. What comes around goes around-I guess.

By: Larfin Jackarse

Larfin Jackarse — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 08:51:53 +0000

I'd rather be in India than gathering dust in an old persons parking lot.

Warm, cheap friendly people, interesting culture etc

The Japanese tried to set up an old peoples village (for Japanese people, duh) in Australia many many years ago in Queensland. The locals freaked out at the 'invasion' and so no investment, no jobs, no nothing.

By: Screen Sleuth

Screen Sleuth — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 07:22:22 +0000

Yeah, my reaction is...i'd feel like a piece of meat if they shipped me off to India, regardless of the cost.

By: DaveL

DaveL — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 05:42:35 +0000

I love curry so it would be no prob for me.

By: PaulVI

PaulVI — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 02:25:17 +0000

Here's another problem:

"Priya, the biryani is still too spicy!"

By: Video Game Dork

Video Game Dork — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 02:19:45 +0000

I find this incredibly creepy too. If I had kids, I'd be terrified and saddened that'd they'd "ship me off" to anywhere to get rid of me until I died, even if they place they sent me too was super-attentive and such. To a different country... well... that just worse. (Although I suppose it's not as bad if the country is where one is from).

By: Ali S.

Ali S. — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 01:33:39 +0000

There's something quite disturbing about the thought of shipping the elderly to another country to be taken care of. I couldn't imagine doing that to my folks.

By: Miss Cellania

Miss Cellania — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 01:30:41 +0000

Oh, yeah, that's me. I forgot I was supposed to do that.

By: Miss Cellania

Miss Cellania — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 01:25:41 +0000

What moderator?