http://www.neatorama.com/2008/04/05/wedded-bliss-lasts-4-years/ The Neat Side of the Web Mon, 01 Dec 2008 23:37:26 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 http://www.neatorama.com/2008/04/05/wedded-bliss-lasts-4-years/#comment-504621 Derek Tue, 08 Apr 2008 14:37:52 +0000 http://www.neatorama.com/2008/04/05/wedded-bliss-lasts-4-years/#comment-504621 This is not the sort of thing I should be reading 5 days before my wedding! This is not the sort of thing I should be reading 5 days before my wedding!

]]> http://www.neatorama.com/2008/04/05/wedded-bliss-lasts-4-years/#comment-503049 Dave Sun, 06 Apr 2008 22:52:13 +0000 http://www.neatorama.com/2008/04/05/wedded-bliss-lasts-4-years/#comment-503049 Indeed, things change and people change, but the only time it's not fixable is when one of the two parties involved doesn't want it to be fixed. The trouble with most couples is that divorce is to readily considered as a solution to difficulties that arise. Indeed, things change and people change, but the only time it’s not fixable is when one of the two parties involved doesn’t want it to be fixed. The trouble with most couples is that divorce is to readily considered as a solution to difficulties that arise.

]]> http://www.neatorama.com/2008/04/05/wedded-bliss-lasts-4-years/#comment-502893 sadtomato Sun, 06 Apr 2008 17:50:58 +0000 http://www.neatorama.com/2008/04/05/wedded-bliss-lasts-4-years/#comment-502893 Mooncake What you say is a nice theory but still does not always work. I lived with my husband for 3 years before we were married and it still ended. Most folks I know who are divorced lived with their partner for at least a year before getting married. Nobody gets married thinking that it will end. We get married thinking that we have the best relationship ever and we will be together forever. Things change, people change. Sometimes it's not fixable. Mooncake
What you say is a nice theory but still does not always work. I lived with my husband for 3 years before we were married and it still ended. Most folks I know who are divorced lived with their partner for at least a year before getting married. Nobody gets married thinking that it will end. We get married thinking that we have the best relationship ever and we will be together forever. Things change, people change. Sometimes it’s not fixable.

]]> http://www.neatorama.com/2008/04/05/wedded-bliss-lasts-4-years/#comment-502712 MoonCake Sun, 06 Apr 2008 13:39:07 +0000 http://www.neatorama.com/2008/04/05/wedded-bliss-lasts-4-years/#comment-502712 i'm never getting married. it's just a document. real marriages last 'til death do us part, document or not. and most of the time people get married after knowing the other for only a short period of time as compared to the "lifetime" you agree to commit to them in marriage. i'm sure divorce rates would go waaay down if people lived together for a couple years before they got married. i'm in a loving relationship of 2 years and we live together. we always say we'll never get married and have kids, and we want to stay together for a long, long time. we complete each other. and i think that's what SHOULD be important if you get married at all. damn drive-through chapels.. thanks las vegas. i’m never getting married. it’s just a document. real marriages last ’til death do us part, document or not. and most of the time people get married after knowing the other for only a short period of time as compared to the “lifetime” you agree to commit to them in marriage. i’m sure divorce rates would go waaay down if people lived together for a couple years before they got married. i’m in a loving relationship of 2 years and we live together. we always say we’ll never get married and have kids, and we want to stay together for a long, long time. we complete each other. and i think that’s what SHOULD be important if you get married at all. damn drive-through chapels.. thanks las vegas.

]]> http://www.neatorama.com/2008/04/05/wedded-bliss-lasts-4-years/#comment-502308 Barbwire Sun, 06 Apr 2008 04:43:38 +0000 http://www.neatorama.com/2008/04/05/wedded-bliss-lasts-4-years/#comment-502308 If you stay married long enough, you fall in love again for a while every now and then. If you stay married long enough, you fall in love again for a while every now and then.

]]> http://www.neatorama.com/2008/04/05/wedded-bliss-lasts-4-years/#comment-501938 Aeris Sat, 05 Apr 2008 21:34:40 +0000 http://www.neatorama.com/2008/04/05/wedded-bliss-lasts-4-years/#comment-501938 I've heard about the whole limerance stuff before, however it also said that after that time ends you basically shouldn't expect everything to stay all good and gravy, you have to put effort into the relationship. If you make your partner happy, he/she will want to make you happy and everything is fine. :) I’ve heard about the whole limerance stuff before, however it also said that after that time ends you basically shouldn’t expect everything to stay all good and gravy, you have to put effort into the relationship. If you make your partner happy, he/she will want to make you happy and everything is fine.

]]> http://www.neatorama.com/2008/04/05/wedded-bliss-lasts-4-years/#comment-501911 Ali S. Sat, 05 Apr 2008 21:08:50 +0000 http://www.neatorama.com/2008/04/05/wedded-bliss-lasts-4-years/#comment-501911 Well, I guess it depends on how you want to deal with your relationship. Well, I guess it depends on how you want to deal with your relationship.

]]> http://www.neatorama.com/2008/04/05/wedded-bliss-lasts-4-years/#comment-501865 Christophe Sat, 05 Apr 2008 20:12:03 +0000 http://www.neatorama.com/2008/04/05/wedded-bliss-lasts-4-years/#comment-501865 Breaking News @ Yahoo.com : http://news.yahoo.com/s/livescience/20080404/sc_livescience/mencreatemorehouseworkforwomen Breaking News @ Yahoo.com :
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]]> http://www.neatorama.com/2008/04/05/wedded-bliss-lasts-4-years/#comment-501820 Christophe Sat, 05 Apr 2008 18:43:58 +0000 http://www.neatorama.com/2008/04/05/wedded-bliss-lasts-4-years/#comment-501820 Ah, the good times of "fewer chores"... Ah, the good times of “fewer chores”…

]]> http://www.neatorama.com/2008/04/05/wedded-bliss-lasts-4-years/#comment-501813 L Sat, 05 Apr 2008 18:31:04 +0000 http://www.neatorama.com/2008/04/05/wedded-bliss-lasts-4-years/#comment-501813 Does that include children or not? Because I would think that wedded bliss fades much faster when you're sleep deprived and cleaning up poop all day. Does that include children or not? Because I would think that wedded bliss fades much faster when you’re sleep deprived and cleaning up poop all day.

]]> http://www.neatorama.com/2008/04/05/wedded-bliss-lasts-4-years/#comment-501775 CheeseDuck Sat, 05 Apr 2008 17:29:37 +0000 http://www.neatorama.com/2008/04/05/wedded-bliss-lasts-4-years/#comment-501775 Huh. Huh.

]]> http://www.neatorama.com/2008/04/05/wedded-bliss-lasts-4-years/#comment-501639 Thomas Sat, 05 Apr 2008 14:20:41 +0000 http://www.neatorama.com/2008/04/05/wedded-bliss-lasts-4-years/#comment-501639 deep. deep.

]]> http://www.neatorama.com/2008/04/05/wedded-bliss-lasts-4-years/#comment-501370 Jess Sat, 05 Apr 2008 09:24:01 +0000 http://www.neatorama.com/2008/04/05/wedded-bliss-lasts-4-years/#comment-501370 I've read research elsewhere that long-term relationships in general usually fail around the four-year mark, regardless of marriage. The theory I read states that before this stage what we are experiencing is "limerance" - or the "can't stop thinking about you" type of love. This causes us to see the object of our desire through rose-coloured glasses, but after about the four year mark when the limerance fades, we are confronted with what the person is really like and we can't always handle it. But when we can still love and acccept a person for who they are past the crazy stage of limerance, that's real love. I’ve read research elsewhere that long-term relationships in general usually fail around the four-year mark, regardless of marriage. The theory I read states that before this stage what we are experiencing is “limerance” - or the “can’t stop thinking about you” type of love. This causes us to see the object of our desire through rose-coloured glasses, but after about the four year mark when the limerance fades, we are confronted with what the person is really like and we can’t always handle it. But when we can still love and acccept a person for who they are past the crazy stage of limerance, that’s real love.

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