Dying Man’s Last Wish: a Prostitute.

Posted by Alex in Medicine on January 29, 2007 at 4:18 pm


From the website:

A young disabled man who receives care for his life-limiting illness at a hospice run by a nun spoke yesterday of his decision to use a prostitute to experience sex before he dies.

Sister Frances Dominica gave her support to 22-year-old Nick Wallis, who was born with Duchenne muscular dystrophy. Sufferers usually die by their thirties.

Mr Wallis told staff at the Douglas House hospice in Oxford that he wanted to experience sexual intercourse. He explained that he had hoped to form an intimate and loving relationship with a woman, but his disability had acted as a barrier.

He told The Daily Telegraph: "It was a decision two years in the making and I discussed it with my carers and my parents. Telling my mother and father was the hardest part, but in the end they gave me their support.

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31 comments to "Dying Man’s Last Wish: a Prostitute."

  1. Paula
    January 29th, 2007 at 4:39 pm

    I have a vague recollection of reading a Young Adult novel that was set in a ward of a children’s hospital. The main character, a teenage girl, was dying of cancer and convinced a twenty-something orderly (or something) to have sex with her before she died.

  2. Vean
    January 29th, 2007 at 4:43 pm

    That’s sad.. I feel sorry for the guy, but I have to disagree.. sex is not a human right..

  3. Rhea
    January 29th, 2007 at 4:57 pm

    Tell the kid that women are not be used and paid for like objects.

  4. Gonna
    January 29th, 2007 at 5:06 pm

    Yes, let’s not let women do what they wish with their sexuality.

  5. ReDCaine
    January 29th, 2007 at 5:16 pm

    Tell Rhea that prostitution is the oldest profession known to man, and their are millions of prostitutes in the world today! Unless she wants to volunteer to take care of his wish herself so that a women is not paid for and used as an object, she should keep her mouth closed! The prostitutes in question can choose for themselves if they want to sleep with the poor kid!

  6. ted
    January 29th, 2007 at 5:23 pm

    How did this get in the news, anyway?

    I guess at the Daily Telegraph they look at the newswire and say, “hmmmm, war in Iraq, earthquake here, tsunami there, wait! Stop the presses! Man wants to have sex!”

    As for using a prostitute, I guess he may as well enjoy the experience and use a professional. Doesn’t have to worry much about catching anything if he’s dying already.

  7. ::mwah::
    January 29th, 2007 at 5:49 pm

    I hope they paid her well.

  8. Ryan
    January 29th, 2007 at 6:37 pm

    I love (LOVE!) when people’s own hangups and tired morality impedes their view of reality. There are places in this great country of ours where prostitution is legal and safe. If I had the required transportation to take this young man I would drive him myself. Everybody deserves moments of joy and if that’s what he thinks will give him a fleeting sense of joy before he dies (yes, lest we forget that this is his dying wish) then let us be human beings about it. Keep the morality tales and whatnot for the able bodied, soft headed, silly people you can influence for your own ill-gotten gains and give this guy a moment of piece (sic).

  9. biltmore
    January 29th, 2007 at 6:49 pm

    Vean Says: “sex is not a human right.”

    What a stupid and ignorant comment.

  10. Mary
    January 29th, 2007 at 6:54 pm

    How in the h*** did this get into the news?

    I hope this young man and his prostitute shoo the news photographer out from under the sheets first.

  11. aj
    January 29th, 2007 at 7:18 pm

    well said Ryan. It’s easy for people to take the high moral ground when they aren’t in this situation themselves.

  12. artgirl68
    January 29th, 2007 at 7:44 pm

    I agree 100% with Ryan. Having worked with chronically mentally ill and developmentally disabled adults for many years, I saw how painful it was for people to live their lives without ever experiencing intimate human touch. It’s no wonder so many of my clients were always at the doctor’s office. For some, it was the only time anyone ever laid a hand on them. If it had been legal where I live, I absolutely would have driven them myself. I hope this young man, who has already been robbed of a quality of life so many of us take for granted, gets his last wish (and I hope he enjoys himself too!).

  13. Heather
    January 29th, 2007 at 8:27 pm

    I’m not sure why this is news, but it is demeaning to Neatorama, which, BTW is my fav site, to even publish it. I think Neatorama has more intellect than this. Best wishes to the man in the article.

  14. shutup you idiot
    January 29th, 2007 at 10:46 pm

    lets get our head out of our asses and realize that today, the only news is bad news, the only reason i look at neatorama is to find the real news, not the depressing bullshit on cnn and fox (which really is shit).

    this is interesting and if this offends you… why? how does this in any way affect you?

  15. The Liberal Avenger
    January 30th, 2007 at 12:03 am

    I think it’s a great post!

    If it were me, I’d probably wish for some really good cheesecake or a pony or something.

  16. Cathy D.
    January 30th, 2007 at 12:49 am

    Well, he sounds like a very interesting and intelligent and person, someone I would be proud and happy to have as a friend. If I was in England, I would’ve gone over to his house and had sex with him for free. :)

  17. pld
    January 30th, 2007 at 1:11 am

    I hope he got a nice eight ball to go with it.

  18. katioh
    January 30th, 2007 at 1:32 am

    hmmmm…

    Where have I seen this before? Oh yeah that weird ass movie “the Theory of Flight” made in 1998 about a girl with a fatal motor neural disease that wanted to get laid before she died.

    Link: http://us.imdb.com/title/tt0120861/

  19. Becki
    January 30th, 2007 at 1:35 am

    Do a thought experiment, you incompassionate moralizing trolls: You’re a young person who may not wake up tomorrow morning, or may die at any time due to the dreadful disease you have that unfortunately we don’t yet have a cure for. Your hormones have been raging since your teens, but you had the strength, self-control, and even the grace to not make an issue about it until the age of 22. What is the harm to anyone if you ask a person of the opposite sex to accept payment for an experience you’ll probably only ever have just once but that you may have dreamed about ten thousand times?

    There’s something seriously wrong with people who chime in with comments demeaning this poor kid, or even to think the story isn’t worthy of a moment’s contemplation.

    Thanks for posting it, Neatorama. It may not be “Neat” but sometimes it’s worth finding out about a story that gives you pause for thought and humbles you.

    I hope he gets more than just the one experience.

  20. Alex
    January 30th, 2007 at 2:27 am

    Hm, this certainly struck a chord.

  21. yawfren
    January 30th, 2007 at 11:12 am

    Nick want to experience a very human physical pleasure (not entirely unlike a diabetic eating something sinfully sweet) and not one person has a thing to say about those poor trampled mice… for shame.

  22. Robert Aronson
    January 30th, 2007 at 2:23 pm

    As a 24 year-old virgin who’s convinced we live in the very last of the Final Days, I can (to a certain degree) understand where this young man is coming from. Whether many believe it silly or not, everyday I wake up hoping the world lasts one more day so I can have a chance to get married and have a family before Christ returns. But, despite my fear of never being able to have a family, I refuse to rush into a relationship or rush into sex.

    Why? Because I strongly feel it’s the right thing to do, and I know that if I rush into such things I’ll not only hurt myself emotionally, but I’ll also hurt the woman involved by objectifying her (as a sex object or a milestone in life; take your pick). If I’m meant to be married, then so be it. If I’m not? Well… I suppose I can live with that.

    People need to realize that life is it’s own reward, and that life isn’t about the pursuit of happiness, but rather the pursuit of virtue (no matter the pain involved). The pursuit of virtue may leave us sad, depressed, or in pain about half the time, but in the end it’s a much more satisfying way to live; it strengthens and empowers us and inspires others.

    Lastly, people need to remember that death isn’t the end. It’s merely a transition to another existence. I’ve personally seen and felt too much evidence to believe otherwise. And if you’re properly prepared, that next existence is a far greater one than this, and filled with naught but physical and mental perfection.

    I’ll have to side with Vean on this: it may be an unfortunate state of affairs, but sex isn’t a human right. If I was in that young man’s position, I would be looking to God, not a woman. It staggers the mind that a nun would support him in this decision. Prostitution is a horrible, horrible thing. Putting aside the fact that it’s a sin, it *inevitably* devalues, devours and destroys women emotionally (if not physically as well).

    I feel for the guy, I really do (especially given my own complete lack of a sex history), but there is so much more to life than sex. No matter what happens, I pray that God’s will for him be done and that he finds peace.

  23. Bill
    January 30th, 2007 at 4:32 pm

    I would imagine his first (and only) sexual experience will leave him disappointed. Sex requires time to get good at and really enjoy.
    I wouldn’t say sex is overratted, I’d just say the experience of losing your virginity is.
    If you went to play tennis for the first time, I imagine you would spend more time chasing balls than hitting them. Sex is kind of like that.
    Without the ball hitting, of course. That would hurt.

  24. biltmore
    January 30th, 2007 at 8:28 pm

    Robert Aronson, go push your bible somewhere else. We don’t need people like you to come on here to preach about religion. You’re just as ignorant as Vean for agreeing that sex isn’t a human right.

  25. biltmore
    January 30th, 2007 at 8:29 pm

    And please, if you’d like to argue about that don’t bring religion into it.

  26. Dan
    January 30th, 2007 at 9:26 pm

    biltmore
    Robert Aronson, go push your bible somewhere else. We don’t need people like you to come on here to preach about religion. You’re just as ignorant as Vean for agreeing that sex isn’t a human right.
    And please, if you’d like to argue about that don’t bring religion into it.

    That’s called censorship.
    Freedom of speech means you are going to be exposed to ideas you don’t like.
    When I start seeing the Jebus stuff, I just skip the post.

  27. Ty
    January 31st, 2007 at 12:32 am

    Word. Skip the post.
    I agree with Becki and all the others that aren’t virtually damning the poor kid.

  28. dave
    February 1st, 2007 at 12:55 pm

    if he is willing and she is willing, reguardless if there is money involved or not, let them do as they please. who are we to judge? As long as nobody is violated and he is in the right state of mind to make an informed decision. I say give her the shocker..

  29. Mike
    February 5th, 2007 at 12:21 am

    Who are we to judge. As long as it was between two consenting adults, its no business of ours.

    I read an article about a 15 year old boy in Australia who did the same. I was wondering what they would have done if it was a 15 year old girl requesting this, would the hospital be as open minded?

  30. Dwight C.
    February 6th, 2007 at 8:38 pm

    I agree with Dave, and totally disagree with Vean. Sex IS a human right. Whether you believe this or not is irrelevant. God gave us a virtually uncontrollable urge to have sex….so that we may “go forth, and multiply”. This poor kid isn’t asking for much, just something that every human being should experience at least ONCE, before they die. Furthermore, I believe that if you want to remain celibate, because you can’t “get any” then go for it. Leave the rest of us alone, and let us devalue, demean, devour, and DELIGHT ourselves until the cows come home. The truth is, nobody wants anything from you anyway…..So there.

  31. mc hammer
    February 12th, 2007 at 8:38 am

    yo i wish i could get 1 but i cant im 120 and i smell + i dont wanna
    #lol :)


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